If Plan A fails resort to Plan B.
Let me just start off by saying that our adoption wasn’t a If-Pregnancy-Fails-Adoption-Is-Our-Plan-B Plan. I tell my friends that it was more like a Plan A, Step 2. We intended on getting pregnant first then pursue an adoption ‘once we were settled in’. God clearly had different plans and so we skipped a step in our plan and we couldn’t be happier.
There’s a reason why I’m sharing this.
A few months ago, I briefly wrote that we were having some issues with a certain family member who was rude about us adopting. He was certainly not very understanding. When we finally had a chance to talk about it face to face he said that to him adoption would probably be the last thing to consider to form a family.
His answer wasn’t shocking. As a matter of fact I know that adoption is probably the last thing to consider for many people- and that is okay. This post isn’t to make you feel guilty because you’re not adopting those needy children of the world who desperately need a parent (okay, the last part was ;]).
In our case, adoption wasn’t the last thing we’d consider. Adoption was going to happen for our family- I knew that at 17 years of age when I made sure my boyfriend (husband now) felt the same way before I continued a relationship with him. Many people think the terms ‘infertility’ and ‘adoption’ go hand in hand but is that the only reason they should? I hope not.
I don’t want to get into why adoption should or shouldn’t be your Plan A or Plan B because everyone is different on how we feel about starting a family. As you have read, I’m right in the middle- my heart is equally for adoption like it is to conceive.
The reason I chose to write about this was because I’m tired of getting the automatic reaction when told we’re adopting- the “oh, you can’t get pregnant?” words spill out of their mouths and a deep sigh of concern flutters over their faces.
I do have to admit that going into 2011 this year, adoption wasn’t the first thing on our mind. We were excited about getting pregnant. Once we realized that it wasn’t happening my husband and I started doing more research about adoption. We were intimated and scared. The information on the internet led us to believe that adoption was expensive and somewhat scary. Thankfully we received advice by our friends (since they had adopted) and finally got started.
Never in a million years did my husband and I think we’d be adopting this early on in our marriage! We are just two early twenty year old newlyweds who wanted to start a family and now we are here!
So even though my heart aches at the fact that I am infertile and that sometimes hope in pregnancy is lost, I couldn’t be any happier that God led us to this part of our journey. My heart has expanded in ways I never imagined. My husband and I are simply grateful for this journey, even when the going gets tough, because at the end we’ll have our children and we hope that one day they learn that our plan in life will never compare to the one God has for them and if they could understand that, then we have done something right.
I often say that I don’t necessarily like God’s plan simply because I don’t know what it is. Faith tends to work that way, doesn’t it? If I had a choice on how my year turned out, it would have been differently but I’m sure not as brilliant as this upcoming year. I simply have to have faith that God is brewing up just the right thing for the right time and I simply just have to hang on for the ride.
So have faith and when things don’t go your way, just remember that God has something better than your Plan A, B, or even C!
P.S.- I sometimes throw temper tantrums when things don’t go my way, and sometimes that’s okay. 
Amen to this!